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The idea of commencing a divorce around the holiday season can seem scary. Although you can argue that divorce is always going to hurt no matter what time of year it is, there is a certain sentimentality during the holidays that might hold someone back from initiating a divorce until the new year. This is why it is important to weigh the pros and cons and see if it is worth commencing a divorce now, or leaving it until the new year. Hiring a Long Island Divorce Lawyer can help you weigh these pros and cons.

Sometimes doing something scary causes us to make excuses to put off going through with something that we are nervous about. If staying with your spouse through the holidays is only going to cause more negative memories, you aren’t doing yourself any favors by putting it off. Having children in the picture can make things even more complex. But no matter what it is going to be painful.

If you do decide to commence a divorce during the holiday season, here are some tips to help alleviate the process.

  1. Plan ahead: If you have children, you wouldn’t want them to feel left in the dark wondering what their holidays are going to be like. Having plans with them will give them something to look forward to. If you don’t have children, make sure you aren’t alone during the holidays. Being alone will only encourage negative thoughts and can lead to an emotional downward spiral. Reach out to other family members or friends and enjoy yourself.
  2. Avoid Public Arguments: Although conflicts often arise during the divorce process, do not argue with your ex-spouse in front of your children. This will turn their holidays into a negative memory.
  3. Create New Traditions: Reminiscing on old traditions may only bring bad memories. A divorce can represent a new stage of your life, and having new traditions can add new excitement to that. If you have children, have them help contribute ideas. This creates something new and exciting for you and your kids.
  4. Plan a Getaway: If you find the holiday season to be too emotional for you, some have found taking a “perspective vacation” to help clear the mind. It is pretty common to take off work around the holidays, so using a couple vacation days to get away can really help you. Even if you don’t have the money or circumstances to go somewhere on vacation, take a vacation at your hometown. Rent a hotel for a couple of days and enjoy the amenities. Being away from your home and family drama can help give you peace and perspective.
  5. Make A New Years Resolution: Now that you’re essentially turning the chapter in your life, it’s not a bad idea to come up with some resolutions for the New Year. Become someone new. Join a club, join a sports league, or try and find ways to get yourself out there and meet new people.